Strap-on Sex For Heterosexual Couples


An article posted from The Frisky called anal sex play "the next frontier for heterosexual couples who are looking to expand their repertoire." Do you agree or disagree?


If such a question makes you blush, you'll turn beet red when you find out the author wasn't talking about males penetrating their female partners. They were actually referring to the rarely mentioned practice of men being on the receiving end of anal stimulation—not just digitally or orally, but with strap-ons.


Once thought only to be for lesbian relationships, strap-on play has become increasingly popular in all kinds of partnerships. In fact it's a practice that's been popping up more frequently in erotic literature. Tymber Dalton's Domme by Default, Charlotte Stein's Giving, and Joey W. Hill's Natural Law, among others, all feature heterosexual male characters enjoying some form of pegging.


In heterosexual relationships, men can certainly take advantage of wearing a strap-on. In some cases, the appeal of the toy is that it can be firmer or more cooperative than the man's penis. It also provides the chance to perform double penetration on their partner. More common in the BDSM world however, is the act of females using the strap-on to penetrate their male partners, a sexual act more commonly known as pegging.

There are plenty of nerve endings in and around the anus that make the area extremely pleasurable when stimulated for both sexes, but men have the added ability to massage their prostate through their anal cavity, making the area even more tantalizing. Armed with the knowledge that they might contain an untapped resource for exceptional physical pleasure, it's not surprising that more and more straight men have become interested in experimenting with backdoor play.


Of course, with any talk of anal play comes the ever-present issues that can be pretty hard to shake for some individuals. But it's understandable that those who are a little more self-conscious may need additional assurances before trying it out for themselves. More often than not, their first concern usually comes straight from the ego. However, since many acts of BDSM involve surrendering the ego, engaging in strap-on play can be good practice when a Dom wants their submissive partner surrender.


Other hesitations that keep men from agreeing to anal play tend to have are more physical. Whether your partner is attempting double penetration using a strap-on and his penis or you're trying anal sex for the first time, take a look at Dr. Rachael's guide. This isn't a process that you want to try for the first time blindly, metaphorically and literally. The same precautions that she recommends for anal sex should be applied when attempting sex with a strap-on.


When performing any kind of anal play for the first time, preparation is key. There are some products you'll want to grab before you get started, the most of important of which is lube. Stick with a water-based lubricant so that you don't have to worry about it deteriorating the material of the condom or toy. Also remember that you will need to empty your bowels beforehand. Discussing enemas and laxatives may not sound sexy, but it's a lot better to do so beforehand than having related problems during the act.


Before buying any toy, do your research. If you're worried about getting the correct products or trying something too large at first, Adam & Eve recommends opting for a beginner's kit. They will usually include different sizes that you can use to slowly get your sub partner accustomed to before moving on to the full length of the strap-on. From there you can mix things up and tease your sex slave with vibrating anal massager, anal beads, and butt plugs.


Above all else, make sure that you talk with your partner beforehand to ensure that you're both 100% comfortable experimenting with pegging. As with any BDSM play, you should always agree upon a safe word before getting started. That way there's no confusion on what feels good, what doesn't, and what lines you don't want crossed.


With an open mind, you and you're partner could be in for an amazing experience. Soon this once "taboo" subject could just become part of your regular mind-blowing, toe-curling, screaming orgasm-inducing, BDSM routine.

Sondra takes control on her own terms and
her 'subs' get to experience what they dish out!